Thursday, December 4, 2008

With a Baby...

“Maybe Christmas," he thought, "doesn’t come from a store.
Maybe Christmas … perhaps … means a little bit more.”
--The Grinch

About ten years ago, I was feeling sort of depressed because I wasn't at all in the Christmas spirit and didn't know how to get out of my funk. I remember going to church one Sunday and receiving a letter from our Bishop with an excerpt from a talk inside by Jeffrey Holland. I vividly recall sitting in my living room later that night and thinking I should at least read what he had given us. As I read Elder Holland's talk, I was deeply moved by the beauty of his words and felt like I had come across one of the greatest Christmas messages ever written. I too, had one little baby at the time, and felt I could relate to his feelings so well. Somehow it just put everything in it's perfect place for me that December. I have pulled it out of my drawer every year since, and it continues to stir in me similar feelings of love and gratitude for this divine season. I hope you too will enjoy it.

I was a student at BYU just finishing my first year of graduate work when our first child, a son, was born. We were very poor, though not so poor as Joseph and Mary. My wife and I were both going to school, both holding jobs, and in addition worked as head residents in an off-campus apartment complex to help defray our rent. We drove a little Volkswagen which had a half-dead battery because we couldn’t afford a new one (Volkswagen or battery).

Nevertheless, when I realized that our own night of nights was coming, I believe I would have done any honorable thing in this world, and mortgaged any future I had, to make sure my wife had the clean sheets, the sterile utensils, the attentive nurses, and the skilled doctors who brought forth our firstborn son. If she or that child had needed special care at the Mayo Clinic, I believe I would have ransomed my very life to get it.

I compare those feelings (which I have had with each succeeding child) with what Joseph must have felt as he moved through the streets of a city not his own, with not a friend or kinsman in sight, nor anyone willing to extend a helping hand. In these very last and most painful hours of her “confinement,” Mary had ridden or walked approximately 100 miles from Nazareth in Galilee to Bethlehem in Judea. Surely Joseph must have wept at her silent courage. Now, alone and unnoticed, they had to descend from human company to a stable, a grotto full of animals, there to bring forth the Son of God.

I wonder what emotions Joseph might have had as he cleared away the dung and debris. I wonder if he felt the sting of tears as he hurriedly tried to find the cleanest straw and hold the animals back. I wonder if he wondered: “Could there be a more unhealthy, a more disease-ridden, a more despicable circumstance in which a child could be born? Is this a place fit for a king? Should the mother of the Son of God be asked to enter the valley of the shadow of death in such a foul and unfamiliar place as this? Is it wrong to wish her some comfort? Is it right He should be born here?”

But I am certain Joseph did not mutter and Mary did not wail. They knew a great deal and did the best they could.

Perhaps these parents knew even then that in the beginning of his mortal life, as well as in the end, this baby son born to them would have to descend beneath every human pain and disappointment. He would do so to help those who also felt they had been born without advantage.

I’ve thought of Mary, too, this most favored mortal woman in the history of the world, who as a mere child received an angel who uttered to her those words that would change the course not only of her own life but also that of all human history: “Hail, thou virgin, who art highly favoured of the Lord. The Lord is with thee; for thou art chosen and blessed among women.” (JST, Luke 1:28.) The nature of her spirit and the depth of her preparation were revealed in a response that shows both innocence and maturity: “Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word.” (Luke 1:38.)

It is here I stumble, here that I grasp for the feelings a mother has when she knows she has conceived a living soul, feels life quicken and grow within her womb, and carries a child to delivery. At such times fathers stand aside and watch, but mothers feel and never forget. Again, I’ve thought of Luke’s careful phrasing about that holy night in Bethlehem:

“The days were accomplished that she should be delivered.

“And she brought forth her firstborn son, and [she] wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and [she] laid him in a manger.” (Luke 2:6–7; italics added.) Those brief pronouns trumpet in our ears that, second only to the child himself, Mary is the chiefest figure, the regal queen, mother of mothers—holding center stage in this grandest of all dramatic moments. And those same pronouns also trumpet that, save for her beloved husband, she was very much alone.

I have wondered if this young woman, something of a child herself, here bearing her first baby, might have wished her mother, or an aunt, or her sister, or a friend, to be near her through the labor. Surely the birth of such a son as this should command the aid and attention of every midwife in Judea! We all might wish that someone could have held her hand, cooled her brow, and when the ordeal was over, given her rest in crisp, cool linen.

But it was not to be so. With only Joseph’s inexperienced assistance, she herself brought forth her firstborn son, wrapped him in the little clothes she had knowingly brought on her journey, and perhaps laid him on a pillow of hay.

Then on both sides of the veil a heavenly host broke into song. “Glory to God in the highest,” they sang, “and on earth, peace among men of good will.” (Luke 2:14, Phillips Translation.) But except for heavenly witnesses, these three were alone: Joseph, Mary, the baby to be named Jesus.

At this focal point of all human history, a point illuminated by a new star in the heavens revealed for just such a purpose, probably no other mortal watched—none but a poor young carpenter, a beautiful virgin mother, and silent stabled animals who had not the power to utter the sacredness they had seen.

Shepherds would soon arrive and later, wise men from the East. Later yet the memory of that night would bring Santa Claus and Frosty and Rudolph—and all would be welcome. But first and forever there was just a little family, without toys or trees or tinsel. With a baby—that’s how Christmas began.


Ann Marie said...

Thank you for sharing this..
I remembered the talk about 1/3 of the way through.. This would be a great one to re-read every year..

When are the Christmas Decor pictures coming??

Jayne Layne said...

Great post! I love this talk. You gave it to me actually, and I too read it every year for the 12 days closer to Christ you gave me.

Thanks for the reminder!

Suzanne said...

Loved it!! And that is really what Christmas is all about! You gotta love Elder Holland. He always writes something that I love and adore.
FYI- When you meet together as a Stake for the New Years CD "A Brand New You" or something like that, listen carefully at the end of his talk for the blessing that Elder Holland gives. It is beautiful and it brought a huge smile to my face. Merry Christmas! -Suzanne

Lauralee said...

loved that.. thank for sharing it.

Sarah said...

Thank you so much for your post. I had never heard this before and I really enjoyed it. It brought tears to my eyes and made me think about that night in a whole new way.

VEGAS VIC said...

Great talk, it is good to re-read it on a yearly basis.
Loved the picture too.
Very appropriate for this family right now.


jill said...

I love that talk, I'm so glad you posted it...I love Elder Holland, he really has such a way with words.

I love how he speaks about the feelings of both Mary and Joseph. Such a beautiful depiction.

Becky and Garrett said...

thanks for sharing this jen. it all seems so different now.

Paige said...

Jen, Thanks so much for sharing. This is a treasure beyond words and was simply meant for sharing. It is an amazing gift you have shared to catch a glimpse of that night so long ago. And yet, how it informs our every choice. Thanks for helping us remember the real meaning of Christmas!